Bridesmaid dresses are notorious for being unflattering and ugly. We smile politely and tell the bride, “Wow! I love it!” But on the inside, we usually know that we’re just wearing it to appease our friend. We’re lucky if we can get one more use out of the dress for another event in the future, but more often than not, they are swiftly discarded at thrift stores or sold online the morning after the wedding. But the most important dress of the occasion is the bride’s gown anyway, so there should be a bit of wiggle room when it comes to what the bridesmaids wear. As long as they are all comfortable, look lovely and do not need to break the bank paying for their dresses, the bride should be satisfied. After all, they are supposed to be her closest and most cherished friends, so they should get to enjoy her day as well.
Unfortunately for one bridesmaid, her soon-to-be married friend has made it clear she is much more concerned about appearances than keeping everyone happy. Last week, PhysicsVast9133 on Reddit shared the story of how she had to drop out of a close friend’s wedding party after the bride was too stubborn to bend on the bridesmaid dress situation.
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Below, you will find the full explanation where the bridesmaid asks if she did anything wrong, as well as many of the responses the post has received from sympathetic readers. Let us know in the comments what you think about all of this, and if you’re ever been involved in bridesmaid dress drama, we’d love to hear your stories as well. Then if you’re interested in another Bored Panda article featuring wedding day drama, check out this story next.
After expressing discomfort about the dress choice, this bridesmaid is wondering if she was wrong for dropping out of her friend’s wedding
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The bridesmaid even provided a photo of the dress
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It is understandable for a bride to become stressed out and get caught up in all of the details as her big day is approaching. But of all the things to cause a fuss over, the bridesmaid dresses do not seem like the most important detail. What should be paramount is that all of your friends and family members are gathered together in one place, and you all get to celebrate your love for your partner for one wonderful day. And as many bridal experts online note, it is not vital that bridesmaid dresses be one particular style or shape. In fact, The Knot notes that, “No matter what you and your bridesmaids wear, your dresses should complement one another.” They just have to be complimentary. There is not one exact, perfect dress that they all must be forced into.
In fact, many brides choose to give their bridesmaids freedom in picking their dresses, within certain parameters. For example, the bride may choose the color and provide a website where the women must purchase the dress from, but the rest is up to them. Strapless or long sleeve, sweetheart or asymmetrical, it does not matter. But a bridesmaid is much more likely to enjoy wearing a dress if she had some say in picking it. We all know what works best on our own bodies, and we will feel the most comfortable when we are in something that’s flattering on us.
Another reason Zina Kumok, of Budget Savvy Bride, notes for allowing bridesmaids to pick their own dresses is the financial aspect. “An average bridesmaid dress can range from $100-$250,” Zina explains. “That amount can be fine for some, but for others, it equals their month’s rent. I didn’t want to make my wedding a financial difficulty for anyone, especially if they didn’t feel comfortable saying so.”
She then responded to some of the comments from readers, providing more insight into the situation
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Though there are several reasons a bride may allow her wedding party to pick their own dresses, the most important one in reference to this story is ensuring that the bridesmaids are comfortable. If you’ve ever worn a dress, or any article of clothing for that matter, that is too tight for you or just makes you uncomfortable, it can be an extremely frustrating experience. The bridesmaid even mentioned in a comment that she is currently working through an eating disorder and in therapy to help get better. That is a very difficult situation to be in, and her friends should be supportive and sympathetic.
At a wedding, you want to enjoy the evening, dance your heart out and eat the delicious dinner and cake. The last thing anyone wants to be worried about is how their dress fits and whether or not it is flattering. As many of the commenters assured this bridesmaid, if her friend really cared about her, she would not have to choose between wearing a dress that she would hate or being a part of her friend’s special day.
We would love to hear your thoughts on this situation below. If you’ve ever been a bride, what rules did you set for your bridesmaids in terms of what they had to wear? And if you’ve ever been a bridesmaid, feel free to let us know how your dress was chosen as well. Sadly, these friends might be unable to resolve this situation prior to the wedding, but if that’s the case, at least this bridesmaid has now seen her friend’s true colors.
Commenters have overwhelmingly sided with the bridesmaid, reassuring her that the bride should have handled the situation very differently
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