You never know what you’ll find when doing your laundry. If you’re lucky, a few dollars or quarters that you forget you shoved in your pocket several days prior might magically appear. On a less fortunate day, however, you might open the dryer to find a stick of hot pink lipstick has melted all over your clothes and created a bit of a fuchsia tie-dye effect. (Yes, that has happened to me. Rest in peace the adorable sweater that it ruined…) To prevent tragedies like this from happening, it’s always important to check your pockets before washing clothes! But according to one man, that can be considered a major violation of privacy…
One woman recently posted on Reddit asking if she was in the wrong for emptying her husband’s pants pockets while doing laundry. Below, you can read the full story, as well as an interview we were lucky enough to receive from Relationship Repair Specialist and Founder of Love At First Fight, Bruce Muzik.
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Feel free to let us know in the comments how you feel about this situation: would you have any issues with your spouse or partner going through your pockets? We would love to hear your thoughts, and then if you’re interested in checking out another Bored Panda article featuring spousal drama surrounding laundry, look no further than right here!
After being accused of snooping, this woman is wondering if she was wrong for emptying her husband’s pants pockets before washing them
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The woman later responded to several readers and shared more context about the situation
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When you get married, you’re entering an agreement to share almost everything with your partner. Your feelings, at least a portion of your finances, your home, possibly your vehicle, household responsibilities and much more. And any two partners who live together, married or not, likely do their laundry together. It doesn’t make sense to separate the loads all the time, and most couples have an agreement that they will take turns doing the chore, assuming they both wash a bit of each other’s clothes/towels/etc. each time. So when an individual is already sharing most of their life with their partner, it’s a little bizarre that there could be secrets lurking in their pants pockets.
To gain some insight on this topic and hear from an expert how much privacy is normal and healthy in a relationship, we reached out to Relationship Repair Specialist, Bruce Muzik. When it comes to how much we should keep from our partners, Bruce told Bored Panda that it depends on the couple. But he shared that every pair needs to balance two opposing forces: togetherness, or “the desire for connection and mutuality”, and separateness, or “the desire to be an individual, autonomous and independent”.
“Privacy falls under the banner of separateness,” Bruce noted. “So it is healthy to keep some things private from your partner. But too much privacy can border on secrecy (and that’s not good). Too little privacy and you’ll feel engulfed in relational claustrophobia.”
We also asked Bruce if it’s a red flag for one spouse to be adamant that their partner not touch their phone, computer or anywhere else they may have private information. “Not necessarily,” he told Bored Panda. “In the case of this Reddit article, yes, it’s a red flag. He’s probably hiding something.”
But Bruce still leaves room to give the husband the benefit of the doubt. “He might also have a past history of having his privacy violated and is hyper-sensitive to perceived invasions of his privacy. Without knowing his side of the story, I wouldn’t jump to conclusions immediately.”
Bruce also shared his two rules of thumb for helping partners understand how much to keep private from their relationship: “Share any information that your partner would feel angry or betrayed by if they discovered this information themselves, and volunteer all information that you believe will help increase your partner’s understanding of who you are and how you came to be you.”
In this particular case, it appears that the husband willingly handed over his pants to be washed. His wife did not sneak into their closet while he was at work or go out of her way to search for something suspicious. She simply didn’t want ripped up pieces of paper, coins or a pen ending up in their washing machine. We’ll never know what he was hiding on that piece of paper, but we can share our thoughts on whether or not this was an invasion of privacy. Let us know what you think about the dramatic reaction from this husband down below, and feel free to share if you’ve ever had a similar conflict with your spouse. Then if you want to read another Bored Panda article featuring laundry drama, check out this story next. And if you’d like to gain more relationship insight from Bruce, be sure to visit his website Love at First Fight right here.
Many commenters assured the woman that she had done nothing wrong, while some noted that her husband might be keeping secrets
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