Mothers are superheroes who can inexplicably do it all. Well, that’s how it seems from the outside because most women are masters at keeping it all together, but the burden of having to balance a career, take care of children, and manage the household would take a toll on anybody. So maybe we shouldn’t just accept that mothers are superhuman, and instead, we should ask how we can make their lives easier and take as much as we can off of their plates.
One mother recently shared a rant on TikTok as her husband prepared to go on a long hunting trip, leaving her to manage everything at home. After that video went viral, fellow TikToker Laura Danger, or ThatDarnChat, responded with another video breaking down how common it is for women to be saddled with the majority of domestic labor in their households.
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Below, you’ll find Laura’s full explanation of this double standard most households seem to have, as well as some of the comments her video received. We would love to hear your thoughts below, as I’m sure many women out there can relate to this video. Then if you’re interested in checking out another Bored Panda article highlighting outdated expectations society has for women, you can find that right here.
After a mother’s rant went viral, TikToker Laura Danger expanded on the conversation about how often women shoulder the majority of domestic labor responsibilities
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First, Laura shared a portion of the video where a mother complained about her husband leaving for a long hunting trip
Laura noted that her followers had shared the video with her
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The wife continued to explain to her husband why she was upset
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Laura then broke down how common this issue is, citing studies on the topic as well
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She then shared a list of the tasks that it takes to run a household
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Finally, Laura encouraged women to start advocating for themselves
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@thatdarnchat It doesn’t have to be this way!!!! I have a Fair Play playlist and more resources to share. Stop carrying the mental load!! #fairplaymethod ♬ original sound – Laura Danger
The mother in this video addressing her husband, and Laura as she provided commentary, hit the nail on the head with this topic. Unfortunately, many men don’t even realize that while they have free time to go hunting, watch a football game or hang out with their friends, their partners are often using that time to clean, do laundry, run errands, prepare meals and take care of their children. But a partnership should be fifty-fifty, and this mother absolutely deserves to call her husband out for not contributing enough.
It seems like an outdated idea for women to be in charge of more of the household work, but unfortunately, this norm persists. And a lack of awareness among the men in these situations seems to be a common theme, as a 2021 Pew Research Center poll found that 59% of American women say they do the bulk of the household chores, while only 34% of men say that their partner handles more of the chores. And when it comes to how American moms and dads view how involved they are in their children’s lives, 54% of mothers say they are the more involved parent. Meanwhile, 63% of fathers believe that both parents are equally involved.
As Laura mentioned in the video, working a full-time job does not allow women any slack either. According to a 2020 report from the Institute for Women’s Policy, women in the United States spend, on average, 2 hours more per day cooking, cleaning, taking care of children and doing other unpaid labor than their male counterparts. And women who work at least 35 hours a week still spend 22% more time a week on household work than men.
It’s important for men to take a moment to stop and think about exactly how much they and their partner are contributing to the household, as their partner is likely doing more than they ever realized. As Laura mentioned in the video, women often think, “It’s easier if I just do it myself” or, “If you want something done, just do it”. I am certainly guilty of justifying taking on extra housework for those reasons too, but at the end of the day, that is taking something away from yourself. Time, energy, or perhaps even joy if you’re missing out on doing the things you really love because someone has to mop the floors and make dinner.
We would love to hear your thoughts on this topic down below. How are household responsibilities split in your home? And do you have any tips for ensuring that too much burden does not fall on one person? Let us know in the comments, and then if you’d like to check out another Bored Panda piece highlighting how much more household work women often do, we recommend reading this piece next.
Many viewers echoed the wife’s sentiments in the comments, with some noting their personal experiences of single-handedly holding a household together
Bored Panda has reached out to Laura via email and will update the story as soon as we receive a comment.
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