A man recently turned to the subreddit ‘Am I the [Jerk?]’ about the confrontation he had at a friend’s wedding with the bride over alcohol. Or rather the lack of it.
The 35-year-old made a post, explaining that he had no idea the whole thing would be “dry,” so when he realized there was only water and soda, he confronted the couple and voiced his disappointment.
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However, the situation got out of hand, and after a few heated exchanges, the bride asked him to leave.
This man attended his friend’s wedding but was disappointed to learn that there was no alcohol
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So he told the couple about it, and a conflict erupted, ending with the bride demanding he leaves
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Generally, weddings need quite a bit of alcohol
For many, not just the author of the post, weddings and open bars have become synonymous. And the longer a party lasts, the more alcohol is needed.
“Most of the weddings I run last seven hours and are open-bar for the first five hours, which includes: hospitality, cocktail hour, reception, and after-party,” Juan Castillo, the banquet manager at Gurney’s Montauk Resort, a popular wedding venue in the Hamptons, told Brides.
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Couples usually have a service strategy throughout the whole affair, and if they’re planning to have any traditions tied to alcohol during their celebration, such as a champagne toast or libation ceremony, many also factor in the appropriate amounts of alcohol necessary for those as well.
It’s challenging to accurately calculate exactly how much alcohol is right for a wedding without factoring in location, time of year, preferences, service style, and other things, however, as a general, loose guideline, experts suggest the following ratios:
- Beer: .5 beers per guest;
- Wine: 1 bottle per 2.5 guests;
- Champagne: 1 bottle per 6 guests (toast only);
- Liquor: 1 bottle per 5 guests (based on a 3-hour open bar);
- After-party: 1.5 drinks per person per hour.
For 50 guests, this translates into 25 bottles of beer, 20 bottles of wine, 8 bottles of champagne, and 20 bottles of liquor.
However, “dry” weddings aren’t rare
Couples choose not to serve alcohol at their weddings for various reasons, from religious to financial.
At the end of the day, it’s their night, so deciding whether or not to have booze is completely up to them. Whether they’re paying for everything themselves or, just like the original poster’s friend, have a generous family member helping to foot the bill, they are ultimately the ones who get to decide how their wedding budget is spent.
It doesn’t matter why you don’t want to have alcohol at your wedding if you’d prefer not to serve it, strike it from the catering order and call it a day.
However, if the fact that someone doesn’t drink is unusual in their group of friends or families, they may want to give the guests a heads-up before they arrive so they’re not surprised when they see water and soda behind the bar.
Of course, it should go without saying that you, as a guest, can’t be rude to the bride or groom and should also strive to be a pleasant part of the day for everyone involved.
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Some people thought the author of the original post was out of line and should have let the couple enjoy their big day
But, given the context of their relationship, others believed that everyone could’ve handled the situation better
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