“Life’s a laugh and death’s a joke, it’s true. Just remember that the last laugh is on you,” sang Eric Idle in Monty Python’s Life of Brian. Whatever else happens and in whatever ways we’re all different from each other, there is one common experience we will all inevitably have. And to calm some of that existential dread, we’ve compiled some funny epitaphs from actual tombstones.
This humorous selection features some last laughs from people that were undoubtedly funny during their lifetime. And to find out more about how to approach death with humor, Bored Panda reached out to Jason Roeder, the author of Griefstrike! The Ultimate Guide To Mourning.
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#1 Pet Cemetery
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Freud claimed that only the mature can appreciate the true value of dark humor. In some cases, perhaps it has more to do with the context the jokes are told in. Dr. Marilyn A. Mendoza says that death itself isn’t funny. It’s rather the situations before and after that we may find humorous.
Bored Panda spoke to Jason Roeder, the author of Griefstrike! The Ultimate Guide To Mourning, to learn more about the art of balancing humor when dealing with such a sensitive topic as death. Roeder’s book is hilarious, but he doesn’t veer into the realm of inappropriate. He managed to craft a handbook on grief with nuance so that it’s often not only funny, but emotionally moving as well.
#2 Found In Biddeford, Maine
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#3 Saw This Beauty At The Los Angeles Pet Cemetery
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Jason is a veteran at nuanced humor, being a former senior editor and senior writer at The Onion and a contributor to The New Yorker, so maybe that should come as no surprise. Yet his insights into approaching grief with humor are still surprisingly poignant.
Most of us have in one way or another experienced that joking can act as a buffer between the negative effects of stress. The same goes for grief: even bereavement groups ask their members to share humorous stories involving their passed loved ones. It’s part of the grieving process where one has to learn how to live and laugh again.
#4 Adams To Atoms
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#5 Let ‘Er Rip
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#6 Sucks To Be Me
Jason also believes that approaching death with humor helps to protect oneself. “It might be some of the best armor we have against it,” he says. “Not against death itself, of course. We’re all losers in that regard, but against the dread of it. We can’t beat it, we’re all going down hard eventually, but we can make our inevitable defeat slightly less humiliating.”
#7 Mom’s Recipe For Sugar Cookies
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#8 The Headstone Of A Lone Texan Liberal
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#9 I Have Nothing Further To Say
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That’s not to say that when dealing with death all you can do is laugh at it. Certain boundaries still remain. “I guess the worst thing you can do is make assumptions about where someone’s at in their grieving process,” says Jason. “I’d never give my book to someone unless I had a sense that they were ready for it, that they could handle a bunch of jokes of varying quality.”
#10 I Told You I Was Sick
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#11 Do Not Enter
#12 Honestly, The Best Tombstone I’ve Ever Seen
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The unknown is one of the hardest concepts to grasp and come to terms with when it comes to death. We’re scared of the uncertainty, and the more we try to understand or make sense of it, the more complicated it becomes. “I don’t think there’s very much at all that can make death actually make sense,” deliberates Jason.
#13 She’s Surely Going To Hell
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#14 Everything About This Tombstone
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#15 Oh Well
“But humor can make you feel better because it can connect you with the person who died or other people who are also grieving for that person,” somewhat optimistically reflects Jason. “The fact that none of it makes sense is kind of beside the point, which is good because we’re never getting those answers.”
#16 Have A Seat
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#17 I Do Work For Cemeteries And This Is One Of The More Bizzare Quotes I’ve Seen On A Headstone
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#18 A Cemetery Is The Last Place I Thought I’d Get Rick Rolled
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Coming back to Freud’s idea behind appreciating dark humor, Jason doesn’t think that one has to have an appreciation of dark humor in order to find death funny. “I’m not sure you have to be a fan of dark humor in your entertainment choices. I just think death puts you in a dark place by default, and humor’s there to help you climb out or just sit in that dark place with you as your ridiculous companion,” he adds.
#19 Things That Make Ya Go… Hmm
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#20 Grave Of An Unknown Man Who Died Eating Library Paste. Goldfield Nevada Pioneer Cemetery
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#21 This Tombstone On A Beach Graveyard
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Not so long ago, HuffPost wrote about how it’s not necessarily wrong to laugh about death and how humor helps grief. It features a story about LA-based comedian Alyssa Limperis, whose comedy special was focused on the passing of her father. “A lot of what we all do every day is avoid thinking about death because it’s so scary and big,” Limperis told HuffPost. “Comedy just helps to be like, ‘Well, we don’t have to go all the way there if we don’t want. We can just laugh and joke about it a little.’”
#22 Rodney Dangerfield’s Funny Tombstone
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#23 Nobody’s Perfect
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#24 This Is My Favorite Gravestone In The Cemetery I Mow. I Am Amused Easily
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TikTok can also be a platform for grieving people to come together and share their experiences with a dash of dark humor. Ironically, the reactions from people calling that kind of content offensive are often from those who haven’t experienced loss themselves.
#25 Epic Epitaph
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#26 Genealogists Never Really Die
#27 The Doctor Will See You Soon
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Jesse Moss, who runs the account Experience Camps, told HuffPost: “The joke is showing you that you’re hurting in a way. Yes, it’s poking fun a little bit, but it’s also a call to other people who have been there to say, like, ‘I see you. Do you see me?’ So I think it’s helpful… And if that’s your way of coping, I’m here for it. I know it’s mine.”
#28 Gabe Salutes You
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#29 Went In The Hole With This One
#30 I Chuckle Every Time I Go To The Cemetery
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Maybe a funny epitaph on your grave can be a way to fill up that void that is left in the hearts of your loved ones. So, pandas, don’t be afraid to have a little chuckle at these funny epitaphs from some formerly alive funny people. Think of it this way: at least they don’t have to worry about taxes anymore.
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